Being a Good Parent

“ THE ENERGY OF THE MIND IS THE ESSENCE OF LIFE “

                                                                                 -ARISTOTLE-

“Maata Pita Guru Dev“- father and mother play a vital role in our life than a teacher and god. Yes! Parents hold a core part of a child. Second Sunday of may and third Sunday of June, We celebrate as International Mother’s Day and fathers day, respectively. Apart from this, every year on the 4th Sunday of July is celebrated as NATIONAL PARENTS DAY. This day is celebrated To Honour all the parents. Their unconditional love and sacrifice for their children can’t be measured by. Parents are a gift from God on earth. Nobody can take their place in our life. They are also precious gift of nature. And also parents play a tremendous role in the development of child. On all this special occasions, social media get filled with beautiful quotes and pictures which shows the Vital role of parents. So here, let me tell you some facts.

As we said before, parents have a vital role in child’s life. Remember, they do as you do,not as you say! So, think yourself,do you pose a stand in your child’s mind? Let you search inside ‘ ARE YOU A GOOD PARENT ?'

Being a good parent is a precious gift that one can have in his / her life . If your goodness lead your child to right path, your badness will definitely lead them to wrong path. It’s a fact.Numerous studies suggest that the best-adjusted children are reared by parents who find a way to combine warmth and sensitivity with clear behavioural expectations. Parents may find the Four C’s to be a helpful acronym: CARE (showing acceptance and affection), CONSISTENCY (maintaining a stable environment), CHOICES (allowing the child to develop autonomy) and CONSEQUENCES (applying repercussions of choices whether positive or negative).

Its clear that parents are moulds which gives perfect shapes for their children. Thus parenting styles affects nature of children.Researchers have identified four types of parenting styles;

1- AUTHORITARIAN PARENTING – Authoritarian parents believe kids should follow the rules without exception.they may use punishments instead of discipline. They’re invested in making kids feel sorry for their mistakes.

Children of authoritarian parents are at a higher risk of developing self-esteem problems because their opinions aren’t valued.

2- AUTHORITATIVE PARENTING -Authoritative parents have rules.  They use consequences and also take their children’s opinions into account, gives value to their opinions. They invest time and energy into preventing behavior problems. They also use positive discipline strategies to reinforce good behavior.

Researchers have found kids who have authoritative parents are most likely to become responsible adults who feel comfortable expressing their opinions and also they tend to be happy and successful.

3- PERMISSIVE PARENTING – Permissive parents are lenient. They often only step in when there’s a serious problem. They neither enforce good habits nor limit bad habits.

Kids who grow up with permissive parents are more likely to struggle academically.They may exhibit more behavioral problems . They often have low self-esteem and may report a lot of sadness.

4- UNINVOLVED PARENTING – Uninvolved parents tend to have little knowledge of what their children are doing. There tend to be few rules. Children may not receive much guidance, nurturing and parental attention.Children with uninvolved parents are likely to struggle with self-esteem issues.They tend to perform poorly in school. They also exhibit frequent behavior problems and rank low in happiness.

From all above information we can come to a point that, Being a friend to your child is the best gift you give to your child. A baby is born with a need to be loved and cared – and never outgrows it.

The one who reading this may be parents or upcoming parents, these are my words for you; let your child be the way he/she loves, Restrict them to a limit, value their words, make them feel your warmth around them, believe them, trust them, make them believe that you trust them, make them feel you love them, care them and want them. These all a children needs from their parents. Never ban them through words without reasons, understand each other and everything will be fine. Be a roll model for them.

Remember THEY DO AS YOU DO, NOT AS YOU SAY! Give a happy childhood for all the little ones growing, and peaceful environment for growing youth, let them nurture their future.